Femdom in popular culture

Nice collection by Sidonia von Bork here.

Both sides now: the several faces of Mistress Sidonia von Bork

I've long rather admired Mistress Sidonia von Bork. She's articulate, social-media-smart, and quite witty. As her "name" rather suggests, she's quite literate too, at least in her reading.

It turns out that she is also Ariel Belle, an artist living in Bath. Not surprisingly, some of her work deals with fetish themes. And she's also Lucy Bailey, who was a sub in some old spanking videos. Probably everyone knows this except me.

Of course, it's not really a surprise that the dominatrix entrepreneur von Bork is also the sub Bailey. She's written a little about the relationship between the roles herself. She's not the only one to have crossed the floor.

Being a dominatrix, like being a sub, is about gratifying male fantasies. The dominatrix service route is more challenging because doing it successfully involves conveying the impression that you are not providing a service - that you are really enjoying this. Otherwise the fantasy doesn't work. The sub has to feel that he is subject to the control of another while at the same time feeling safe enough to enjoy it. If it's too obvious that the dom is providing a service then you're in control, not under hers, and the fantasy is ruined.

Apart from her entrepreneurial acumen (she's apparently studying Economics now, though I don't know what they can teach her), von Bork's USP is her attitude. She really does appear to be enjoying herself.

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